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Why do Guys Like Porn?
Recently someone arrived at The Churning after searching for the phrase why does my boyfriend look at porn. That's a silly question.  You can't ask the internet why your boyfriend looks at porn. You gotta ask your boyfriend. For all I know, he's got a fetish for watching women give blowjobs to albino horses.
Still, I want to provide a service to our dear readers. So I'm going to once again ask for help from The Churning Loyalists. Today, we're going to create a list: reasons guys look at porn. I'll start things off. Leave a comment with your suggestions.
- Online porn is free (if you know where to look).
- Guys like to sport wood. Porn can make that happen anytime.
- Porn chicks do some really fucked up shit and they act like they enjoy it.
- You can find porn for any fetish. It's much more difficult to find an actual real life girl who's into whatever sick shit you're into.
- Women are beautiful. Naked women are even better. Naked women fucking are the best.
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March 29th, 2009 - 13:03
Some women enjoy porn. That’s obvious. But I guarantee you are in the minority.
March 29th, 2009 - 22:04
Porn seems to be so successful becouse its one of the oldest taboos. like prohibition made alcohol the number one product for the black market.Maby thats why we like it so much becouse of the chance of getting cought gives us just a little more adreneline. America has more cencership than most countrys. lol Even uncle-sam contributes
April 11th, 2009 - 12:29
To Nunya Binnis,
God bless you! I have been reading all the comments here and YOU are the ONLY ONE who’s got the answers to all the questions that I have in mind. No offense to everybody–you all have provided some insights as well.. but it’s just that Nunya Binnies has it all laid out clear from a men’s perpspective. Very informative.
Thank you Nunya Binnis!
April 18th, 2009 - 09:01
I don’t think porn in a relationship should be neccessary at ALL. I’ve found some websites on my boyfriends computer, and I was extremely angry about it because I should be able to pleasure him to the point where he doesn’t need to look at other naked bodies. I have sex with him 2-3 sometimes even 4 times a day, and I don’t think there is absoluetely any reason to be looking at that. NO it’s not natural for all guys, if your boyfriend/husband loves you and your body, there’s no need to jack your two inch penis to some greasy, orange looking, blonde haird slut! That’s not normal, and that’s not a part of a relationship. porn is cheating, simple as that. How on earth could a man that loves his wife/girlfriend sit down at a computer and fantasize about putting himself into her? How could a man look at that womans face and think about their sweet girlfriend that they love? And at that, REAL cheating could also occur. If I found out that my boyfriend has looked at porn again, I would honestly, and truley cheat on him. I can’t bare to think about him getting all aroused and turned on by some ugly bitch on the computer that’s faking an orgasm. If he, or any guy wants to go and look at that kind of shit, go ahead- but don’t EVEEERRR call me again, because I’ll be out fullfulling my fantasies of a guy with a six-pack and a huge packadge.
April 18th, 2009 - 11:38
Sounds like you are a strong mature woman who is in a healthy relationship. Your guy looks at porn so you threaten to fuck some other guy who has a big cock and six pack abs. This world would be a better place if all women were more like you.
April 18th, 2009 - 18:31
@Becky:
WOW! You sound like a wonderful girlfriend who is very secure and trusting.
First you said that porn is cheating, then you said that “REAL” cheating could also occur. So watching porn is fake cheating? Also, how exactly could “REAL” cheating occur from someone watching porn? Is that like the same association that people make about weed being a “gateway” drug? If you smoke weed then you’ll move on to the hard shit…….if you watch porn then you’ll fuck someone else. Sounds logical…..
Based on your “logic” the fact that you have “fantasies of a guy with a six-pack and a huge packadge” (spelled package, btw) is also cheating. Watching porn on the tv/computer is no different than your fantasies because fantasies are basically porn created by your mind. Why is OK for you to have a fantasy about another guy but not OK for your boyfriend to watch porn? I’ll tell you why, because you’re a controlling, insecure, immature person. That’s why.
You wrote that you “found” some websites on your boyfriend’s computer. I’m sure that wasn’t a mishap. You were probably doing like the other women (who don’t trust their men) posting here and snooping. Which just adds to you being insecure and immature. (in addition to you implying that all men who jack off to porn have 2 inch dicks)
From one woman to another: Grow up. Start learning how to trust. And most importantly, learn to love yourself and quit being so damn insecure.
April 23rd, 2009 - 02:12
yeah my girl and i watch porn, so in short why? because it releives pressure, we guys have to do something about our drive, or we could go mad.
May 5th, 2009 - 01:31
A good list to be sure. However, I think porn is more of a substitute that short circuits our human development making us more unhealthy in the end (no pun). Just think of all the jumping about and sqwaking most male animals have to go through to attract a mate. A major pain I’m sure, but it is an important aspect to the survival of each species. Likewise if all you do is watch porn you’re probably never going to develop key socialization skills necessary to relate to a mate or women in general for that matter. Moreover, I suspect the more pervasive the porn affectation in a population the more unhealthy the relationships that will come out of it. Bottom line boys and girls don’t let porn short circuit the potential of your relationships. Dare to strive for real intamacy.
May 18th, 2009 - 15:46
Hi, I too have a bit of a situation. It kinda fits into many of the stories.. but still let me tell. I have been with my bf for almost 4 years, and when we first got together, he wasn’t exactly into that porn stuff. But for the past two years or so he has started viewing it more and more. He brings his laptop into the bathroom and spends 30 minutes in there…. most of it spent watching porn. I have confronted him about it, but he jsut gets mad at me and tells me to stop tracking his every move… although I don’t even look on purpose. We used to have sex all the time, and I have actually became more open and willing to do anything. I’d say that I am somewhat attractive, and he likes me in lingerie and I do the things that he wants. I don’t mind that he watches it, we have watched it together a few times, but to be honest, he’s not that great. So, I was hoping that by him watching it he would get more ideas and learn things… and maybe he does, but he doesn’t do a good job at showing it. We used to have sex all the time, now, I try to initiate it, and he is the one who is tired or doesn’t want it. We probably do it like 1 or 2 times in a time span of two weeks. I have told him that I don’t mind him looking, but I want to know why he has to hide it or lie to me about it. I told him to look at it on the computer in the living room in front of me… but he still freaks out. I’ve always had self-confidence issues.. and him doing this makes me even more self-conscious, like I am not good enough or something. I would want to do it, but as soon as he brings his computer in the BR i dont want to anymore because it drives me crazy. I haven’t told him that he should use it to get ideas…. and I also haven’t told him that he doesn’t do anything to make me want to. TO be honest… he has never actually made me climax during sex. And also, when we first got together, he would eat me out all the time… but it’s been over a yr.. and I tell him how much I like it and I like to get turned on… but he puts himself first. Any advice guys or girls. I just don’t know why I am not good enough anymore. Thanks
May 19th, 2009 - 10:45
Haleigh:
Your life will be the sum of the parts you allow into it. Accept it or move on!
June 18th, 2009 - 23:27
Girls would be into porn much more than they are now if they weren’t made to feel like sluts for having a sex drive.
June 20th, 2009 - 02:15
what the fuck is with theses guys abusing girls for sex????? its fuckin rediculus!!!!!!!! get a life and ask you girlfriend for it……..DONT ABUSE FOR IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
July 9th, 2009 - 22:59
Here’s the thing,
society wants to make women feel like they should accept this habit men insist on continuing. men know how relaxed it makes them feel but dont stop to realize how insecure and betrayed it makes their partner feel. Insecurity makes for a lousy sex life. And if mama aint happy…aint nobody happy. Stop for a second to consider that and what may be at stake and talk to her in an open safe environment about how she views your porn viewing. If she tells you it offends her, she will take it as a sign that you do not love her as much as a computer and that you werent willing to sacrifice her well being for a cheap thrill. As unfair as that is, it happens. You are reading this so you know hopefully in advance. Maybe you can use it to her advantage and have her give up shopping if you give up porn. Just know that it isnt likely that she will ever change her standpoint on whether or not porn is normal or perverted…and what do you value. I value honesty most when all is said and done…as do most.
July 9th, 2009 - 23:46
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July 12th, 2009 - 23:17
Well, I used to get so pissed off at my husband for watching porn. I don’t anymore. It would be different if he was having cyber sex. Then I would be so pissed that I would actually leave him. Back to porn, One day I even caught him masturbating while I went to the kitchen and he just gave me the puppy dog eyes and I hadn’t even realized I had caught him. He explained it simply. Sex can be tiring. And to tell you the truth, I bet those women and men in porn take a little brake then get at it again. I can not be jumping on top of my husband for 5 minutes straight. I can puke easily, so there goes the blow jobs. I get tired doing all the stuff this girls do. Sometimes we both cramp up hehe. So yeah, let him enjoy it. I love him and he does me, and as long as he is not cheating, is ok. I used to feel insecure, whatever, I am happy of who I am and how I look. So if I am tired and he does it is ok. He might be in the mood but I might not. Don’t worry about it girls.
August 11th, 2009 - 14:58
So here is my thing… I like porn, my bf likes porn, we watch porn together and alone, we both masterbate and know that the other does but it doesn’t bother me and he says it doesn’t bother him. So… so far we have established that we both like porn we both masterbate. We have a very health and fantastic sex life.
Here’s my hang up! One day he asked me why I like porn, what kind of porn do I look at when I’m alone, and if I get off to porn. I was totally honest with him and told him the truth, but when I posed the same question to him he lied.
He told me that when he looks at porn it’s purely for entertainment and that he doesn’t get off to it or watch it for that purpose. That he prefers porn with a story line not hardcore adult entertainment (i.e. space nuts, buffy the vampire layer, and jane bond dd7). BTW these are the kinds of porn dvds we rent together. I totally accepted this answer, why wouldn’t I. He has no reason to lie to me, I have never judged him and I told him the truth even when I was a little freaked about being so openly honest about my secret fanticies and curiosity (and my answers were very diffrent than the ones he gave me). I was actually a little nervous about what he thought of me after I was so honest with him.
I found out that he wasn’t honest with me when I came home from work early one night. He was upstair on the computer with earbuds in watching hardcore adult entertainment and jerking it. I wasn’t really that mad, matter of fact I was even turned on by it. He was very suprised when he realized I was there and watching. I could tell he was a bit embarassed that he was caught, but I soon put him at ease when I was willing to join in. The thing is that later when I asked him why he lied about his preference in porn when he is alone and why he would lie about getting off to it. He got all enbarassed and stuck firmly to his story telling me it was just a rare occurance. So not being happy with that answer I looked at the history on our computer. He looks at hardcore adult entertainment everytime I’m not around. So the question I have is WHY?
I get all your stuff about talking about it and what not. What gets me is that I really don’t care! I’m a bit of a sexual deviant and was honest about it. I am more pissed that I told him the bare and ugly truth when he asked me, but he lied and continues to do so when the same question is posed to him. WTF? I am completely baffled.
August 15th, 2009 - 11:09
This is a bunch of bull… If women were running around doing the exact things that are so “NATURAL” for men we would be labeled all kinds of things. It is ok for men to look at porn because we are socially conditioned to believe so. “it’s a guy thing” “it’s what guys do” is a bunch of crap. it is degrading and demoralizing to women!!
When a there is healthy sexuality within a relationship, pornography is the unnecessary expression of sexual desire without a relationship. It is a perverse intrusion into the health, honesty, and meaning of loving commitment.
August 15th, 2009 - 15:07
I retract what I said in the above post since it’s obvious that I’m a hardcore feminist and anything a woman does to show her sexuality harms my stance as a feminist so I have to be against it. I understand that women make more money doing porn then they do in a lot of other industries and I respect there right to choose this as a career option and command there bodies how they see fit. Sorry for posting something so retarded to the thread but I just hit the crack pipe before posting and that sometimes makes me a little opinionated.
August 15th, 2009 - 15:12
Stumped, don’t be to worried and don’t consider it a lie, he is just not comfortable with what he likes himself. Also he may believe that you are lying about what you like to try and get him to fess up and if this is the case he is just playing games. Just show him though actions what you like and see if he plays along eventually. The problem with relationships these days is that society tells us how we’re supposed to be, how we’re supposed to react to certain things and how women and men are supposed to be in a relationship and then the couples try to follow that power struggle and gain an upper hand. Just live! Enjoy each others company and do what comes natural. Life is too short to play games, play life instead.
September 20th, 2009 - 00:35
i personally dont have a problem for porn but, when im beggin my boyfriend for sex and then 2 days later i catch him jackin off when he knows damn well that im always horny bugs the fuck out of me it makes me feel unattractive and im a cute girl and all i just dont know why he would rather watch porn really.and then he lies to me about it even though i sen him do it??? and if we do have sex now its like we have to watch it to get him in the mood what is up with that … that only makes me feel insecure and i hate that so can any guys gimme advice
September 20th, 2009 - 03:29
All you guys who think porn is acceptable — I hope that someday, hopefully soon, you’ll settle in for a nice session with your hand and a video and when the hapless chick turns around, you discover that she’s not Jane The Anonymous Porn Hole(s), it’s your daughter! Your sister, your niece. Hey, if it’s ok, it’s ok, right? Where’s the line? Evey girl in a porn movie is someone’s child, sister, niece — It’s revolting.
September 25th, 2009 - 03:13
lori, i know where ur coming from i get the same with my chap,its like if he watches porn then he wants sex with me where as if he doesnt watch it then i have to go without! tbh i dont mind watching porn or my boyfriend watching it, it is a turn on although i dont think he needs to look at it everyday, or watch it every time we have sex!why is there the need to look at it so much????? im a pretty girl and always horny so y the need to look at porn?! i tried talkin to him about it and told him hes adicted to it but he doesnt agree with me. but the need to look every day, everytime he goes on the computer thats not rite,agree? i know he loves me, just get a bit offended that he “NEEDS” to look at porn. am i over reacting? or is it him with the problem? sum1 help me plz??!!
September 25th, 2009 - 15:27
hey paula its lori, i totally agree with you… you dont see us looking at abercrombie and fitch models all day to get turned on to be able to fuck our boyfriends right???? well since i wrote that last comment i know it sounds a little weird but i have been asking around alot about this because it has bugged me alot and here are some of the answers i have gotten:
this guy told me he has been masterbating since he was 12 years old he has a girlfriend and he would never even think about cheating on her, but there are still times where he masterbates its just a guy thing he told me guys like to look at all female bodies nothing against you or anything its just they do…
this other guy told me that the reason he like to watch porn when he has sex its because he feels like there inviting other people into there sex lives well into the room he says its hot and he in his head competes with the other couple, he also told me that he has not told that to his girlfriend because it sounds stupid but i guess guys are competative… then this psycology major told me that guys are built that way they are built to reproduce so instantly without them thinking about it they see a females body and the brain sends signals down to his penis naturally. oh and listen to this in this study they had said that the percentage of guys that dont masterbate to porn or magazines are most likely to cheat. the ones that do masterbate dont cheat, its just a natural thing for guys to like all bodies and its natural for guys to feel the need to have infedelities , but its better for them to have infedelities in a fantasy then for real…
paula, listen i still dont effin get it but i dont know about you but i dont want my boyfriend to cheat on me i would kill someone (j/k) but i htought about flippin the script somehow im not really sure how cus they dont really make porn with just guys unless its a gay porn but im tryin to flip the script somehow so i can try to make him understand how i feel..
oh yeah i know this is super long but this lady told me she has been married for 30 yrs and they honestly faught for 5 years of there marrrige over porn and it got ugly she then realized she loves her husband and she did not want to fight anymore she told me that if i was to keep fighting with mine and i was to leave him over somthing stupid the next guy i end up with will end up doing the same thing well yeah i hope this helps a little bit
September 25th, 2009 - 15:30
oh yeah i have found my self to be just as obsessed with me catching him looking at porn just as much as he is watching the damn thing
September 28th, 2009 - 23:35
I get so heart broken when my husband looks at porn it hurts me. I just can’t stand the thought. He tells me it’s not like that but I don’t believe it. Truth is I am insecure and have been for like ever so me feeling like the ugliest person on earth and him watching that kills me. Thats my truth. I tried to watch it and get used to it but it turns me off. Most of the girls and guys are fake and its not a turn on to hear the fake moans n groans.
September 29th, 2009 - 00:33
Simple Facts….
1) Porn outsells any other media on the planet year after year (think about why that is)
2) Guys that have really hot girlfriends still watch porn, and most of the time the porn stars are not as hot as what they already have, that is not the point! It about mental fantasy.
3) Guys like to masturbate but its too hard to close your eyes and picture things that help you out, way easier to just watch something that turns you on.
4) If you video taped yourself getting fucked in the ass by your boyfriend from multiple angles (have a friend video tape it) and let him completely dominate you and talked about how big and awesome his dick is while moaning loud and saying fuck me I bet you money that would be on his top 3 favorite list of porn to jerk off to, its not going to stop him from watching other stuff just be in the top of the collection
5) Most guys fantasise about dominent women or submissive women and most porn acting follows one of these two roles. Porn is not about love, its about fucking, jerking off and having hedonistic pleasure. When you are in love with something those things do not exist for the most part because they can’t you either have that or you have love, not both!
6) Most guys would not cheat on someone they really love so they find alternatives to kill the urges too. Most guys have ample opertunity to cheat on there wives and girlfriends and a lot of girls like the danger and excitement of being with a taken man since it means they can feel like they are better then the other girl. So guys are very smart to make sure they keep themselves mentally stimulated so they don’t walk in to these traps!
7) If you disagree with my facts then you are just dillusional, I’m a man, I’ve been a man my whole life and I’ll die a man. And I’m married, lucky for me my wife just tells me she doesn’t really like porn but she also knows that I do and does not mind me watching it. Especially since without it I won’t leave her alone for 10 seconds thoughout the day and she would never catch her breath. She has learned to appriciate it for what it is and how it helps me and not dwell on all the “Arn’t I good enough” bullcrap, it does not APPLY! Brad Pitt probably watching porn for christ sakes and look at the women he has been married to. Shit…
9) Porn is more accessible then water in most places.
10) It gives guys a boner, guys like to have a boner, guys like to rub there boner and like when stuff comes out.
11) Guys like to change it up, most guys dont watch the same porn over and over again, they watch new stuff because they like to change it up constantly. Also guys will still jerk off if they are getting sex 10 times and day and sometimes will turn down sex to go masturbate because sometimes a guy just likes to mix it up and sometimes a dude just knows whats best for himself at a given time.
12) Sex requires you to care aboue how someone else is feeling and share responsibility in a experience. Masturbation is all about the DUDE! It requires no thought to be taken away even for a millisecond to consider someone else. This leaves there mind 100% to what it needs to do!
13) Just because a guy likes porn does not mean he disrespects you or loves you any less. Girl that think this really need to educate themselves on what it is to be a man and read less retarded magazine and study more medical journels. And also remember that guys usually start watching porn instinctivly the second they learn about it in there lives. Why do you think that is?
September 29th, 2009 - 01:29
Hi guys. Ive been reading ur messages and there is nothing for you women to worry about. If u leave ur boyfriend or husband because u cought him masturbating or watching porn, then u will be heading someone worst. Im a guy and i live my girlfriend, its now 2and a half years we planning on getting married. Well let me share something with u ladies. My gf and i useto make love like everyday, from everyday it became twice a week and now its like once a week. Then we introduced movies the first time i watched porn it made me feel crazy, i wanted my gf all the time and my gf is that horny typ im lucky 2 have her. When i started on porn its the way the women moan and groan its like they like it, they enjoying that feeling, thats what turns ur man on the sound of them enjoying to be fcked and the positions. So next time u catch ur man masturbating on porn, take a nice shower slip into the sheets and touch urself with a moan and groan of u enjoying urself when comes to u close ur eyes and pretend u didnt c him, keep making that sound of enjoyment as soon as he jumps into bed stop and close ur eyes to sleep, when he touches u moan with enjoyment and tell him u tired. It will make him go crazy for u because of his addiction to porn. Do that for a few days as punishment for him. When u finally make luv with him he will eat u up…That will make him stop watching porn cause in his mind the moan and groan will always remind him of u.
October 3rd, 2009 - 17:42
For the longest time my boyfriend said he didn’t watch porn anymore. He told me that since I came into his life, he’s had no need for it, all he needs is me. I knew that he masturbated though, so we took some sexual pictures of me and us together, and he said that was more than enough for him. We were together for over a year when, not too long ago, I found his porn stash on his computer.
I felt lied to, of course, but worse than that, it made me feel inadequate. It made me feel like I wasn’t enough for him. I confronted him about it, and, wonderful man that he is, he admitted to it, apologized, and then honestly answered all the questions I had. When I found out that he was as turned on by his brand of porn as he was by me, the conversation was over. We almost broke up, which it takes a lot to do when you’ve been together happily together for over a year, and you’ve started a small business together, not to mention the simple things like all our stuff was bought with mutual money and the lease to our apartment isn’t up for another 4 months… the fucked up part is it was HIM trying to break up with ME! I was the one he lied to for a year, I was the one he hid shit from, but apparently being insulted and feeling like crap because of it is overreacting.
Here’s the kicker. It’s half-dragon chicks-with-dicks hentai. See… how the hell am I supposed to NOT be insulted if he says I turn him on the same amount as they do? I mean, isn’t some grotesque sexual fetish like this something I should’ve been made aware of BEFORE we started building our entire lives around each other? I mean, naturally this isn’t a first-date conversation, but at least before we move in together? I mean, this stuff caught me off guard, here I am going through his recent files looking for a picture I had just scanned (the scanner doesn’t seem to wanna play nice with MY computer, so I had to be using his, and don’t give me crap about snooping anyway because he told me I had complete access to his computer whenever I wanted because he knows how crappy mine is). I probably never would have found it if it wasn’t for the fact that I needed to go through recent files, and it was already in recent files. Then I did snoop a little, I went into the file marked “furries” because even at this point I trusted him to think “well, it’s probably not porn…” then I looked in it, it was horrifying. AND the date most recently accessed was like a day prior to when I’d found it.
Guys… if you have any weird, gross fetishes… and you’re to the point of getting serious with your girlfriend… please tell her! Trust me, you do NOT want to go through what my boyfriend went through when I found his stash. I had to react from several different emotions ’cause not only was I totally not expecting it, it shattered my trust in him for lying, it made it to where I couldn’t even look at him without imagining him masturbating to that garbage for days afterwards. I’m still getting over it, but I think our relationship will recover. But seriously, we haven’t had sex since I found it, and if for no other reason… just make sure she knows!
October 4th, 2009 - 07:45
@ pr0n 15 6r055
My boyfriend lied to me about watching his fetish porn too. He is into really really tall chicks and these cartoons where the woman is ginormous and the guy is small and she’s doing weird dominating things to him. When I found it, I too was looking for a recent file of mine that he gave me permission to look for. I had mixed feelings because I specifically remembered asking him if he’d had any weird fetishes, to which he replied no. So, he lied to me too and I was hurt about that. I did start to let myself feel inadequate. I mean, I’m only 5’4″. How the hell am I supposed to be any taller? Does he want me to dominate him in bed and walk him around the house by a leash around his dick like in the pictures? I can do that if he wants, but I can’t be taller.
Then I sat down and talked to him. He told me that he’s had this fetish since he can remember. He felt dirty and weird for liking it and even talked to his Therapist about it. She told him that it probably has something to do with his mom dying when he was only 4. He never told me about it (actually lied about it) because he’s embarrassed by it. He reassured me that he loves me just the way I am and that I’m perfect for him. And, I believe him.
All I asked of him was to not look at it when I was at home. Not even when I’m sleeping, or in a different room, not at all. He was perfectly ok with that. So now I’ll even joke with him if I’m not home and he is. I’ll say to him, “Whatcha doin…lookin’ at your bitches?” It’s become a joke between us, even though I know he’s still looking at it when I’m not home.
He appreciates the fact that I didn’t ask him not to look at it anymore. All men have a reason for looking at the porn they look at and 99.9% of the times it’s not because they’re not happy with us. I know I give him sex every single day and blow jobs every other day. So, it’s not lacking in that department. He just likes looking at it. And that’s ok.
Anyway, the point I’m getting at is maybe you shouldn’t be so mad that he lied to you about looking at porn with weird shit in it. Maybe he’s embarrassed to tell you. And really? Look how you reacted to it? Maybe he wasn’t so wrong for not telling you. And I guarantee that when he threatened to break up with you, that was due to his embarrassment.
Give the guy a break. Work out something so he can still look at it, otherwise, you’ll find that you’re going to keep being lied to about him looking at it. Don’t get me wrong, you’ll still find yourself thinking about the fact that he’s looking at it. But you just got to keep reminding yourself that he loves you just the way you are and how much of a wonderful guy he is. Nobody’s perfect.
October 8th, 2009 - 10:28
To the ones who are married 4 over 4years and to those who going out for more than 3years. Your life is on love….yol are lovers and are happily living 2gether and yol do things 2gether. Laugh, play, shopping, choirs, cuddle, sleep, getting naked. Thats everything 2gether…Um…If i mist anything please add it. So what is wrong with watching porn 2gether…? Its suppose 2 be yol’s relaxing time, yol’s wonderful time of pleasures between two mountains where water falls….On saturday etv has these soft porn movies. Start of soft do things 2gether. From the movie u get fourplay into love making. Be4 u know it ur hands will be on his dip stick and he will be licking ur cradle to a waterfall. Thats will stop him from doing it himself cause he’ll know he got U. Be opened enough and talk about it..
October 8th, 2009 - 10:47
Kellie: Maybe you can read and comprehend what you just wrote, but anyone intelligent and over the age of 25 cannot. You are an idiot. Please stop fucking up the written English language.
October 8th, 2009 - 11:34
April: are u in a relationship, cause love does not need age to understand. A 16 to 25 year old know what love is about and a 26 to 45 year old have love experiance so that makes them more matured and opened to talk the matter out rather than sneaking and been scared like a shy 16year old first love.
October 8th, 2009 - 15:27
Kellie: My comment to you had nothing to do with relationships. It had to do with the fact that you wrote a whole entire paragraph like a 12 y/o girl would write a text message. You left out words, used numbers for words, completely misspelled words, and were extremely hard to understand. If you’re trying to get a point across, which I think you are, then you need to type it so people can understand it. Don’t be lazy and write shit like be4, 2gether, yol, and mist (mist is actually a word that means something and not a shortened version of missed) and leave complete words out of sentences that should be there.
But to answer your question, yes I am in a relationship and there’s no sneaking around in my house. We watch porn separately and together, we masturbate, we have sex, we do oral, we’re open and honest and trust each other 100%, we sneak between mountains and play in the waterfalls, we’re completely happy and there’s nothing to complain about what so ever.
October 8th, 2009 - 21:18
Hi everyone. I just got into a new relationship (about 2 mo.) so we’re still working out the kinks and getting to know one another. We’ve been having sex like crazy, 3 or 4 times a day. He told me about a month ago that he loved having sex with me and appreciated how adventerous I was. He also mentioned that since he met me, he hasn’t watched any porn. I kind of expect this in our relationship because he has expressed to me that he doesn’t want me to use my vibrator without him. One small hitch in our sex life. . .
About a year ago I was diagnosed with breast cancer. It wasn’t a severe case but a good amount of my breast tissue had to be removed. Long story short, I went from a good sized C cup to an A cup. It fits me alright and I haven’t considered implants because it seems like an unnecessary danger and I’m 5’1″ and very petite anyway. Needless to say, I’m still adjusting to the size difference and the scars have just started to fade away. But not so much the emotional ones
I only take off my shirt in front of him when the lights are off. He told me it was alright and that he’s way more of an “ass guy”(of which I have a nice one) and all his previous gf were “flat chested” bc he prefers the athletic look.
Back to the porn business. So, my bf just got a new job that requires him to wake very early and likewise, turn in very early. I’m a college student with a lot of studying to do. In the last two weeks our sex has gone from 2-3 times a day to about once every other day. So naturally, I wasn’t all that surprised when I used his computer the other night and found http://www.redtube.com on his recent drop down bar. I wasn’t upset but I was curious and wanted to know what kind of porn he was into so I went into his history. It was informative. I now know that he prefers hand jobs to blowjobs, likes women with dark hair and eyes(which I have), and that he just likes ordinary hardcore sex. The only thing that upset me were the titles labeled “busty”, “DD bitch”, and “big tit”. Now, it’s impossible for me to take off my shirt in front of him! On top of the fact that I’m still getting used to the way they look, now I feel like I’m not good enough or not what he wants. He probably wasn’t telling the truth before. I mean, who’s gonna tell a woman they care about who has been through cancer that they prefer big breasts, right? I feel very undesirable and unfeminine. And I told him I’m fine with him watching porn but it’s them or me: if he watches porn I would like him to tell me about it honestly (and I believe he will) and that I will probably decide not to have sex with him for the next day or so. His response was, “okay, I’ll tell you if I do.” I know I’m being naive when I say that I was hoping for his response to be, “I understand how it makes you feel and I would much rather have you, any day of the week.” Am I asking too much? I know he’s a “man” and all. But I really feel that he’s being insensitive and thinking with his dick. Help!
October 8th, 2009 - 22:27
Amber: First and foremost, I’m sincerely sorry that you’ve suffered from breast cancer and I’m very happy that you’re a survivor!
Now on to the porn: Please do not be angry for my honesty, try to think of it as advice, since it’s what you’re seeking. It’s going to be hard, but you need to not let your insecurities get in the way of your relationship just because your man is watching porn of women with large breasts. It’s not good for you to give him an ultimatum, especially after only dating for 2 months. Just because he watches things in porn that are things you’re not, that doesn’t mean that’s what he wants or prefers. He fell in love with you for YOU. YOU are much more than your breasts.
Just because he watches women give men hand jobs, doesn’t mean he prefers that. Perfect example: When I watch porn, I get extremely turned on by watching a woman get gang banged and double penetrated. I have never in my life participated in a gang bang and have never had more than one man or one dick inserted in my body at a time. But? Watching other women get that is what does it for me when I’m pleasing myself. And look at cheesehead’s comment above. Her man has a fetish for amazon women and she’s short. She can never be tall, but she’s accepted that her man loves her for her. And that’s what you need to do as well if you want to make your relationship work. Because I’ll tell you right now that he’s NOT going to tell you the truth about it if he does watch it. Why? Because he knows how you’re going to react, so why tell you? You don’t seem to make it welcoming for him to be honest with you when you’re giving him ultimatums.
If you weren’t what your man wanted, he wouldn’t be with you. The bottom line is that you’re insecure, rightly so, but you can’t push your insecurities onto him because he’s watching porn of women with big breasts.
Good luck.
October 9th, 2009 - 07:26
I have been reading everyones comments since i last posted on here and they have been very helpful in makin me realise its not the end of the world with him looking! but heres where im at. i have been with my chap for about 2 an half years and im also 8 months pregnant, so my hormones probably dont help the matter. after my last comment i have been excepting that he watches porn and i have even said to him you can watch it when im here, but i asked him if 2 days a week he could go without it. not to much to ask for! do you think?!then i found out on them 2 days hes been on the computer while im asleep to look at it and also durin the day on his phone!! 2 days thats all i asked!is it me being unreasnable? i feel he has to watch it every single time we have sex,perhaps its the way i look at the moment being pregnant and that, i just wonder if we will ever be able to have sex again without him feeling the need to watch it, maybe when i feel my normal self and attractive again i will make him not watch it while havin sex. i wont mind now and again but not all the time. I have never had this in my previous relationships. is it normal and healthy for him to be this obsessed with porn? or is it me over reacting. we argued about it this morning because i was annoyed, and he said sorry but now i feel mean for making a big deal out of it, and sometimes wonder if its my hormones and me just me with the problem? or whether he should be more considerate. any advice guys?? thanks
October 10th, 2009 - 12:15
Paula: its ok to be insensitive about your man watching porn, that shows your love for him. He on the other hand should know how you feel about his habit and respect your presents around him. If he really loves you, he should consider the fact on how you feel and what your emotions do to you when you catch him on porn. Besides you are carrying his child and he is going to be a father, what father watches porn when a baby is coming, what is he going to teach the child. He should grow up and have more focuse on you and the baby rather than naked filthy women, its a shame to know thats in his head. Its best that you both talk about it, now that you pregnant you have more power over him. Tell him about your emotions and how your hormones make you feel cause you pregnant, tell him the hurt and pain you in when you catch him on porn. Cry if you have too, tell him to stop, cause it hurts you that his watching porn when you pregnant. If he really loves you and he sees your tears. He will stop and start been a father and a loving man that he is to you. You in my prayers.
October 10th, 2009 - 21:22
Kellie: “What father watches porn when a baby is coming?” Are you serious? I’m sure there are MILLIONS (if not billions) of fathers across the world who watch porn. And you know what? There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that! I’m a mother and I watch porn. I watched porn when I was pregnant, too. Does that make me a bad mother? Does that mean that I’m going to teach my kid anything bad? HELL NO! Please!
Paula: I think that maybe you should ask him not to watch it while you’re home, even if you’re sleeping, because it bothers you. And ask to only have him watch it every other time you have sex, rather than every time. Tell him that it’s really starting to hurt your feelings because you think he’s becoming obsessed. While I think it’s OK for guys to watch porn, there is such a thing as too much.
And here’s a key piece of advice I have for you: Stop looking through his computer and phone to see if he’s looking at it. Looking is only going to make you upset. If you never would’ve looked, you wouldn’t have known that he was looking while you were asleep or during the day on his phone. I know it’s going to be hard not to look, but there’s no need to get yourself upset while you’re pregnant.
I hope you have a happy and healthy baby and that you and your man come to a happy compromise. Take care and good luck. =)
October 10th, 2009 - 21:48
Kellie,
I dont know what kind of crack your smoking but if you think that the best way to let a man know how you feel about porn is to go on a power trip and fake tears then I feel sorry for any man that has to put up with your shit. Also saying that woman has more power in a relationship is dumb as hell, there is no power in a relationship if two people truely love eachother. They learn to understand and compremise, you sound like the type of bitch that just uses all your cards to fuck with your mate and completely control him. You have no place in this thread so bugger off and stop fucking with peoples heads. Also BTW my wife is Preg’s and she only likes to watch porn when she is in the mood which I fully respect. But she does not pull rank on me and hang my future child over my head as ammo to win an argument or to force me to act how she wants. If a womans idea of a perfect man is one without flaws that does everything she wants then go read a novell or buy a robot, that is not why people love eachothers. Its our flaws and differences that make us stay togather.
October 11th, 2009 - 04:21
Anti-kellie: you sound like the type that smokes petrol, because you smoke it, your wife must also smoke it because its your way. She found you like that, because she loves your she must smoke the shit with you, what a flaw of love you have. I bet you introduced porn to her, when YOU met her she was not a porn addict, because she loves you and got tired of arguing your porn addiction and that she does not want to lose you, she must join in your shit to make you happy. If you have kids or have kids they too must join your shit, cause its your way, you the Man of the house. You hooked your wife, imagine what you taught your kids. What a fucked-up flaw of love.
When you love someone, thier wishes must be respected a play by both partners. Not because its my house or I am Man of The house My Wife must do all the choirs. I must allso take part. If she does the dishes at night i must do them in the morning. When my wife is home late i must prepare dinner cause when i am late she does the same. Thats a flaw of love.
October 11th, 2009 - 04:27
Anti-kellie: you sound like the type that smokes petrol, because you smoke it, your wife must also smoke it because its your way. She found you like that, because she loves your she must smoke the shit with you, what a flaw of love you have. I bet you introduced porn to her, when YOU met her she was not a porn addict, because she loves you and got tired of arguing your porn addiction and that she does not want to lose you, she must join in your shit to make you happy. If you have kids or have kids they too must join your shit, cause its your way, you the Man of the house. You hooked your wife, imagine what you taught your kids. What a fucked-up flaw of love.
When you love someone, thier wishes must be respected a play by both partners. Not because its my house or I am Man of The house My Wife must do all the choirs. I must allso take part. If she does the dishes at night i must do them in the morning. When my wife is home late i must prepare dinner cause when i am late she does the same. Thats a flaw of love. If your watching porn is hurting her emotionally and mentilly then respect her wishes and stop your shit, dont let her burn in the fires of hell with you. Burn yourself up or plug out your eyes.
October 11th, 2009 - 05:14
April: fathers that watch porn, how do you knw there are millions? are you counting them? Do they knock on your door and say,’ hey, im a father of four and i watch porn’. You a mother and you watch porn, i would understand if you single. Tell me, when did you start watching porn? I think your husband introduced it too you, i bet you got tired of arguing with him, dont want to loose him, maybe his too rich earns more than you and you loose all that wealth. So you rather join in his shit and knw you are an addict you even watch porn when you are pregnant. I would understand if you were stil single or not a mother yet, stil enjoying sex with boyfriend thats every reason to watch. But you are a mother and he is a father and are married it should stop. I bet you cant stop cause your husband is such an addict and now just an addict yourself. April you such a disappointmant to all mothers. Your should share your story on how you got addicted to porn, but you encouraging it to all the mothers to do it, cause you was that pregnant mother watching porn so all the other mothers must also do the same. What encouragmant you give. You shouldnt be writing if you cant share your story on how you became an addict to porn, and stop encouraging it you making me sick as a women.
October 11th, 2009 - 06:08
That last comment was so immature and i$ even on the no porn side
October 11th, 2009 - 06:09
That last comment was so immature and im even on the no porn side
October 11th, 2009 - 08:18
Kellie: I started watching porn, on my own, when I was single. I’m not addicted, as I do not watch it every day or even once a week. Why can’t a woman, mother, man, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever enjoy porn without being addicted? I know many mothers who watch porn, some (not including myself) who are swingers and do it because THEY WANT TO and not because their husbands make them. You are a fucking idiot if you think that people who are married or are parents should not be watching porn. Wait, you’re just a fucking idiot period! I make you sick as a woman because I watch porn? You make me sick as a fucking human being because of these stupid, immature, dumbass pieces of advice that you’re giving. Please go away because obviously no one wants to hear the drivel you’re shitting from your idiotic mouth. You are delusional and idiotic. Maybe you should seek help.
October 11th, 2009 - 10:02
April: u started watching porn been single, how many times did u masturbat be4 it hit u that u need a man, better still how many men did u fuck while watching porn be4 u decided to get married. And know u are a mother. Imagine your daughter caught you watching filthy women opening thier legs and saw you spreading your legs stuffing a hair brush handle up your ass and said; “mommy what are you doing” what will your respond be? Stop influencing mothers and fathers to watch porn, not when there is children running around the house. Once the couples get married and start having children the porn watching should stop. And as a women been pregnant and your husband is still watching porn, what message is he send to her. Its simple, his not ready to be a father and his still crazy for other women. Where is the respect, u cannot compromise your wife or your husband with porn. I have read all messages from top to bottom. And its the women or should i say wife, who are complaining about thier husbands watching porn not the other way around. Its funny as a women you supporting and encouraging the husbands wrong doings. You must go and have your jeans tested many be you have male hormones your instinks are like a man you could be leisbian, thats why you started watching porn first and introduced it to your husband. You a disgrace too all mothers, go shave your beard…..
October 11th, 2009 - 10:22
Kellie: This is going to be my last and final comment in response to your stupid fucking ass. Grow the fuck up and realize what a fucking idiot you are. Most of the women on here (not all) who are complaining about their husbands are insecure and controlling. Porn is not a bad thing. Yes, people can become addicted to it and it can be a problem. But watching it alone or with your partner whether your married, dating, or have children is not wrong. You are a fucking idiot!!!!!!! All of your misspellings and sentences that don’t make sense show how uneducated and fucking retarded you are! Maybe you should have your genes (NOT JEANS) tested to see if you have Down Syndrome because you are fucking retarded! And since you mentioned hair brushes (who does that anyway?), I hope that you’re not using them to fuck yourself because that could be spreading horrible bacteria into your nasty snatch. There are such things as dildos and vibrators, look it up. And what kind of responsible parent is going to be out in the open, watching porn and fucking themselves, so their children can see? You are so fucking stupid if you don’t think that responsible parents would do those things behind closed doors. You are delusional and have a warped sense of relationships and reality.
I’m not influencing anyone to watch porn, I’m just not being an unrealistic dumbass, like you, and telling women to do stupid shit to control their men. You will be alone for the rest of your life with your retarded mentality. I feel sorry for any man that dates you because you are a weird, stupid cunt. YOU are why women get a bad name and why men lie to their women about watching porn. Please do not procreate and fill the earth with anymore retarded fuckers who solicit horrible advice. Please get an education and learn how to spell and form proper sentences. Until then, go way. We’re getting tired of reading your senseless, retarded drivel.
October 11th, 2009 - 10:32
P.S. I’m more of a woman then you’ll ever be! Fucking retard.
October 11th, 2009 - 11:47
April: first of all im not introducing porn to my husband and secondly iam happily married and very successful.
I know many women who were young always dreamed of how beautiful and perfect thier wedding should be.
You on the other hand was planning how to be a fucker and how many men you going to fuck, how many dildos you going to stuff up your ass, by the way your first dildo was your hair brush. Now you all grown up and spreading your legs wider supporting and encouraging mothers, children and fathers to do your shit.
You knw what, if you are burning in the hell you are living in, please dont take others with you. Rather burn alone or plug out you eyes.
October 11th, 2009 - 14:23
So let me get this straight, Kellie. Not only must April be a man or a lesbian because she likes porn, but she’s also a whore because she likes porn? You think women should control their men by crying and showing their “power”? Wow, you really are an idiot. I mean, I know she’s probably pissing you off by calling you out for the asshole that you really are, but you don’t need to pull shit out of your ass and make up stupid shit. Nothing she wrote said anything about introducing anyone to porn, especially not children. I highly doubt that you’re happily married and I’m 100% certain that you’re NOT successful. Unless you consider working the register at Wal-Mart successful.
Seriously, go away. This thread is done with you. You are a loser. And you’re probably fat, too. And I’d bet money that IF you DO have a husband, he jerks his tiny dick to porn and blows big loads while thinking of other women…all behind your back. Although, you probably do know since you found this thread. You probably found it because you were all upset wanting to know why he’s looking at it and turned to the internet. It’s because you’re fat, ugly and most importantly stupid.